What Kind of Man Do You Want to Be?

Give yourself permission to choose

There are many assumptions about what it means to be a man. But a lot of them are restrictive, holding us back from being ourselves.

We asked ordinary Victorian men what masculinity means to them, this is what they told us.

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Asking yourself what kind of man do you want to be?

  • More than ever, men are recognising that the old scripts of masculinity can hurt them, and the people around them.
  • Letting go of the pressure to 'perform' manhood frees us to build healthier identities and make deeper connections. When we show up with kindness, compassion and empathy, we're setting a different example for a new generation of men.

We've gathered resources on health, wellbeing, relationships, and becoming a parent to help you think about the kind of man you want to be.   

Health, wellbeing and relationships
Fatherhood and becoming a parent for the first time

Parents of younger children:

Parents of older children:

  • Young men online: Information from the eSafety Commission understanding the online landscape young men experience, for better and for worse.

Want to know more?

Looking for tools to start conversations with your club or group, or even just with your mates? We've collected some helpful links and resources to help you ask and answer the question: What kind of man do you want to be?

Working with men and boys


Looking for tools to start conversations with your club or group, or even just with your mates? We've collected some helpful links and resources to help you ask and answer the question: What kind of man do you want to be?
 

More stories coming soon

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Need support?

The Men's Referral Service is the national counselling, information and referral service for men seeking to change their behaviour, operating  24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Call 1300 766 491.  

MensLine Australia is a telephone and online counselling service for men with family and relationship concerns, available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Call 1300 789 978.  

Lifeline is a national charity providing all Australians experiencing emotional distress with access to 24-hour crisis support and suicide prevention services. Call 13 11 14.

Beyond Blue provides free telephone and online counselling services for everyone in Australia, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Call 1 300 22 4636.

If you are experiencing violence, concerned for your safety, or in an emergency situation please call 000 for urgent police assistance.  If you need support or advice, reach out to a specialist family violence support service