What Kind of Man Do You Want to Be?

Give yourself permission to choose

There are a lot of 'rules' out there telling men how to be. Rules like – you have to be tough, you have to be the breadwinner, you can’t show fear or sadness, you always have to be in control. Sound familiar?  

Let's talk about it. We asked ordinary Victorian men what masculinity means to them?  This is what they told us... 

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Asking yourself what kind of man do you want to be?

More than ever, men are rethinking the rules of masculinity. What would it mean if you allowed yourself to let go of the pressures that aren’t serving you, and let yourself show up with kindness, compassion and empathy?


Major life events, like starting a new relationship, graduating, beginning your career, or becoming a parent can spark personal reflection. We've gathered resources on health, wellbeing, relationships, and becoming a parent to help you think about the kind of man you want to be.

Health, wellbeing and relationships
Fatherhood and becoming a parent for the first time

Parents of younger children:

Parents of older children:

  • Young men online: Information from the eSafety Commission understanding the online landscape young men experience, for better and for worse.

Working with men and boys

Check out these resources to help you start conversations with men and boys in your organisation or community about what kind of man they want to be. 
 

More stories coming soon

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Need support?

The Men's Referral Service is the national counselling, information and referral service for men seeking to change their behaviour, operating  24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Call 1300 766 491.  

MensLine Australia is a telephone and online counselling service for men with family and relationship concerns, available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Call 1300 789 978.  

Lifeline is a national charity providing all Australians experiencing emotional distress with access to 24-hour crisis support and suicide prevention services. Call 13 11 14.

Beyond Blue provides free telephone and online counselling services for everyone in Australia, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Call 1 300 22 4636.

If you are experiencing violence, concerned for your safety, or in an emergency situation please call 000 for urgent police assistance.  If you need support or advice, reach out to a specialist family violence support service