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Fui's story

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We sat with Fui and talked fatherhood. Fui loves being a dad and has a close relationship with his kids. For Fui, being a ‘strong dad’ is about love, care and connection.
We sat with Fui and talked fatherhood. Fui loves being a dad and has a close relationship with his kids. For Fui, being a ‘strong dad’ is about love, care and connection.
We sat with Fui and talked fatherhood. Fui loves being a dad and has a close relationship with his kids. For Fui, being a ‘strong dad’ is about love, care and connection.
We sat with Fui and talked fatherhood. Fui loves being a dad and has a close relationship with his kids. For Fui, being a ‘strong dad’ is about love, care and connection.

Video transcript

Video transcript

Video transcript

Video transcript

I stay home and I work part time, and my wife is the breadwinner. I still see myself as a masculine man, but I sort of, you know, alter it here and there.

43-year-old Fui is from Deer Park. He’s a kind and affectionate dad who loves spending time with his five kids. He loves that his kids are happy and relaxed around him and that they talk to him about their problems.

Fui spoke to us about how important it is for his children to know he is always there for them, that they can always talk to him no matter what their worries are.

Fui also spoke about his own upbringing. His father was strict and had come from an even stricter family. Fui tells us that growing up he often felt like he was walking on eggshells around his father.

When Fui became a dad, he made a decision to take a different approach as a parent. He has built a close relationship with each of his five kids, especially his daughters as he saw this was absent with his own sisters.

Watching Fui build close relationships with his children prompted his father to apologise to Fui for the way he was as a father. He told Fui he is proud that his son was able to change a family pattern that goes back generations.

That conversation lifted a weight off Fui’s shoulders, helping him realise how liberating it is to enjoy being a dad.

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